Adjusting to Limb Loss

Losing a limb can be a profound shock. Everyone reacts to loss differently. Only you know how you feel, but do not hesitate to ask for the emotional support that you need. Having a grasp on what you can expect can help to reduce anxiety. 

Stages of grieving

Grief is a complex emotion and is a normal reaction to any kind of loss. It may begin right away after limb loss or you may not really feel grief until later in your recovery. The process of grieving can be broken into five stages, and they may happen in any order. You may feel one stage more strongly than others, or possibly get stuck in a stage. Learn to recognize the stages of grieving:

• Denial

• Anger

• Bargaining

• Depression

• Acceptance

Adjusting to a new body image

We all see ourselves a certain way. After limb loss, your self-image may be altered. Accepting the changes to your body can take time. Remember that losing a limb doesn’t make you a less valuable person. As you go through your physical recovery allow yourself emotional, mental, and spiritual recovery time.

You are not alone

Asking for help can be hard, but everyone needs support from time to time. Don’t let limb loss isolate you. Reach out and ask for support and assistance when necessary. These people and organizations can support you:

• Ampower peer support group is a great resource. Contact them at EmpoweringAmputees.org or by calling 1-844-AMPOWER

• Family and friends: People who love and care for you really want to help. Tell them what you need and how you feel.

• Psychologists or other therapists: Therapy can help you work through the adjustment process.

• The Amputee Coalition: This nonprofit group provides resources and support. Find them online at www.amputee-coalition.org.

Notes for family and friends

You can support your loved one’s during their recovery in many ways.

• Encourage them to get back into a routine

• Listen closely to what they tell you.

• Ask questions and voice concerns.

• Some sadness may be normal but watch for signs of depression

Contact a trained therapist if your loved one: 

• Feels overwhelming or unrelenting sadness.
• Does not find pleasure in anything.
• Will not accept the reality of limb loss.
• Will not touch his or her residual limb or get out of the wheelchair.
• Will not see or talk to friends or family.